Manifesto of The Brave and Brokenhearted

There is no greater threat to the critics and cynics and fearmongers than those of us who are willing to fall because we have learned how to rise.

With skinned knees and bruised hearts; we choose owning our stories of struggle, over hiding, over hustling, over pretending.

When we deny our stories, they define us. When we run from struggle, we are never free. So we turn toward truth and look it in the eye. We will not be characters in our stories. Not villains, not victims, not even heroes.

We are the authors of our lives. We write our own daring endings. We craft love from heartbreak, compassion from shame, grace from disappointment, courage from failure. 

Showing up is our power. Story is our way home. Truth is our song. We are the brave and brokenhearted. We are rising strong.

— Brené Brown

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Shine Bright As You Are

Your past

Don’t allow your past to control your present or your future life, whatever happened you must let it go. Leave the pain of your past behind so it cannot ruin your future, leave the darkness of your past behind so it cannot block the light of your bright future.

Your past is gone, whatever happened, whether unjust, cruel, harsh, whatever the case, reliving the events will never do you any good.

If someone did you wrong the only way you can win is if you let go and move on. If you live in hate they win, if you live in the victim story they win. If you want to win you must focus on building your future and start right now.

Release that weight from your back so you can be free, don’t allow events from the past which are now gone to ruin this moment which is perfect, this moment which is now to enjoy, which is ready for you to live fully.

Other people’s opinions and judgments

Don’t allow other people’s opinions and judgments to control the direction of your life. The need to fit in and feel wanted can cause you to travel down paths you don’t want to travel. People pleasing is a curse that should be avoided at all costs.

Before you do anything ask yourself, am I doing this because I want to do it or because of my fear of judgment from others if I don’t. You were born unique for a reason, you were born to stand out, to be appreciated and loved for who you are.

Don’t dim your lights so you fit into the dull background of other people’s lives. Shine Bright As You Are. Those who really care for you will see that light and shine with you.

— Fearless Soul

Balance Your life

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them: work, family, health, friends and spirit. And you’re keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.

But the other four balls: family, health, friends and spirit are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.

How?

Don’t undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others. It is because we are different that each of us is special.

Don’t set your goals by what other people deem important. Only you know what is best for you.

Don’t take for granted the things closest to your heart. Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.

Don’t let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.

Don’t give up when you still have something to give. Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.

Don’t be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect. It is this fragile thread that binds us to each together.

Don’t be afraid to encounter risks. It is by taking chances that we learn how to be pave.

Don’t shut love out of your life by saying it’s impossible to find time. The quickest way to receive love is to give; the fastest way to lose love is to hold it too tightly; and the best way to keep love is to give it wings!

Don’t run through life so fast that you forget not only where you’ve been, but also where you are going.

Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.

Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry easily.

Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.

— Brian Dyson

Make a Difference

Remember, dreams without goals are just dreams and they ultimately fuel disappointment. Have dreams, but have goals, life goals, yearly goals, monthly goals, daily goals. I try to give myself a goal every day.

Understand to achieve these goals you must apply discipline and consistency. You have to work at it every day. You have to plan every day. You’ve heard the saying “We don’t plan to fail, we fail to plan.” Hard work works. Working really hard is what successful people do.

Remember that just because you’re doing a lot more doesn’t mean you’re getting a lot more done. Don’t confuse movement with progress. My mother told me “Yeah you can run in place all the time and never get anywhere.

Continue to strive, continue to have goals, continue to progress and anything you want good, you can have. Claim it, work hard to get it, when you get it, reach back, pull someone else up. Each one teach one. Don’t just aspire to make a living. Aspire to make a difference.

— Denzel Washington

Fail early Fail often Fail forward

It’s always a little bit frustrating to me when people have a negative relationship with failure. Failure is a massive part of being able to be successful.

You have to get comfortable with failure, you have to actually seek failure – failure is where all of the lessons are.

You know, when you go to the gym and you work out, you’re actually seeking failure – you want to take your muscles to the point where you get to failure because that’s there the adaptation is and that’s where growth is.

Successful people fail a lot, they fail a whole lot more than they succeed. They extract the lessons from the failure and they use the energy and the wisdom to come around to the next phase of success.

You’ve gotta take shot, you’ve got to live at the edge of your capabilities. You gotta live where you’re almost certain that you’re going to fail.

That’s the reason for practice. Practice is controlled failure, you’re getting to your limit, getting to your limit, getting to your limit. You can’t lift that, you can’t do that until you get to the point that all of a sudden your body makes the adjustment and then you can do it.

Failure actually helps you to recognize the areas where you need to evolve.

— Will Smith